Aline: Hello gorgeous and a warm welcome to Accepting. I'm lAline your host and in this episode we are continuing the theme of love over fear from the gorgeous episode we had with Kristos and Foster a few weeks ago. If you haven't listened to that episode I highly recommend you do. As ever please do review, subscribe wherever you get your podcasts so we can reach as many people as possible so we can all accept ourselves and get on with why we're really here. So in this episode, we're going to be feeling into accepting more So get yourself cozy, really comfortable, grab yourself a cup of tea ⁓ and dive in. Hello gorgeous and welcome to this episode. We're going to be focusing on accepting more without guilt. And this follows from theme of Love Over Fear, the beautiful episode with Kristos and Foster a few weeks ago. And we've been continuing feeding into what is love over fear. And for this episode I was really feeling into accepting more without guilt. Because the previous episode we were feeling into, okay, we've broken those agreements. We know our worth, we know it's important to put ourselves first, we know it's important to put our passion projects first, we know it's important to create the space for that. So once we have that in place, and we're putting more energy into what really works for us, we are ultimately going to start receiving more of that, because the more we put out, the more we get back. So... What was really interesting for me because I've started recording more podcasts because I'm going away for a few weeks. I wanted to record them in advance. So I've been very much focusing more on the podcast. There's always been one a week that's always been there. And what I've been finding is really interesting is people have been getting in touch with me to help me with this, to ask me with this. Can we have a special guest? So receiving these emails, marketing mails, sales mails, et cetera, so forth, was really interesting because... There was a moment of, no, why am I receiving this? It's because, is it because I'm doing something wrong? There was a moment of, ⁓ people are asking me if they can edit for me. People are asking if they can, they can get guests for me. People are asking me this, this and this. And it was so interesting because my, my first response, my millisecond response was, am I doing something wrong? I went immediately into what have I done wrong? And then, I was so interested because I just felt I haven't done anything wrong. It's the fact that I'm really focusing on making sure the podcast is reaching all the people that it's supposed to reach because we changed the platform back. So we're now managing it again ourselves. It's now on a completely different platform as well, not in terms of the platforms that it goes out on. It's just so much easier. And because everything has become easier with recording, with editing, with publishing, we're not having to download recordings, edit on something else, then upload it again and upload it onto other platforms. It's all happening from one place. And it's ease. It's so much easier. And because that ease has happened, it's allowed that space. where more can come in. And what was so interesting for me was that instant, ⁓ well, maybe I'm not editing properly. Maybe people aren't finding it easily. All of this came in. So what I would like to focus on for this episode is how it's so important when we have any kind of signals from the universe. of ease, of synchronicity, signals and reminders of what you're working on has a purpose, has a purpose for you, has a purpose for the universe, has a purpose for others. Any little inklings that come through, we're receiving that with gratitude. We're receiving that with thank you so much. I understand this is feedback because I've put so much energy in focusing on the podcast because I've put so much energy in focusing on my health, because I've put so much energy in focusing on my abundance, because I've put so much energy in focusing on this creative project, whatever it may be for you, lovely, because I put so much energy on allowing love into my life and partners are showing up left, right and center. It's when that happens is taking a pause before we respond. because it can be so easy as empaths to be triggered. It's like, well, hang on a minute. What's that for? Why is that? Why is that happening? I remember this has just come up as well. I remember years and years and years ago, I think I was in my teens and people were being really, really nice to me. boys started being really, really nice to me. And I remember there was this very, very handsome chap and I thought it was a joke. I thought that he couldn't possibly be that interested in me to pursue me, if you like, and be that handsome and that gorgeous and that beautiful a person to be interested in me. And so my instant go-to was, this is a joke. Who's playing a trick on me? And for some reason that came up then. Fast forward all these years, I'm going to be 50 years young this year. And so that was a little feedback moment for me, because when we're in a state of ease and flow, and we're in that parasympathetic state, not in the sympathetic states, know, fight, flight, freeze, fawn, we're relaxed, we're calm, insights can come through. So that insight has just reminded me that somewhere at some point, I had the belief that people were playing tricks on me. So when something comes through like that, a supportive email saying, congratulations on your five star review. And then something else comes through saying, would you be interested in this guest on your show? We think they really align with your message and your theme and can help so many people. ⁓ My instant go-to was what have I done It was a perfectionism thing. It was the good girl, if you like, coming through. It the good girl going, ⁓ no, I've done something wrong. Instead of taking a pause in my empress energy, in my parasympathetic state of receiving and going, ⁓ how wonderful. Look what's happening. Absolute strangers are getting in touch with me. ⁓ because the podcast is reaching those who it's supposed to be reaching. How wonderful is that? Thank you for the synchronicity. Thank you for the signs, the signposts that were going in the right direction. So I would really invite you, my gorgeous, just to notice if anything that you've been working on, as we were speaking about in the last episode of that Health, Wealth, Creative Projects, anything that you've been working on and really feeling into what your passion is and that one thing that you're working on at the moment. If things are showing up for you, what is your instant reaction? How are you reacting to that? Is it with gratitude and yes please more or is it with, hang on a minute, what do they want? Or, hang on a minute, I'm not sure I can do that. ⁓ I don't think I'm ready. Yeah, I think that that's probably a mistake. They don't mean me. ⁓ maybe ⁓ they've sent email to the person or ⁓ maybe they think I'm somebody else. don't think that's for me. Just notice if anything like that's coming in. I mean, this is very, very general. Just notice if anything like that is coming in. And it feels so important to say that when you start receiving signals, offers signposts etc so forth. Take a breath, feel into it before you respond and if it's something that that you feel and you discern is not for you, still be grateful that it's shown up because what it's showing you is the universe is very much listening to your vibration and your vibration is putting that out there. You're getting feedback that what you're working on is working. And the more that we acknowledge, thank you very much. ⁓ Okay, that opportunity came up. And this is where I mentioned this in the previous episode with myself being a fire dragon in a fire horse year, I have to be very, very careful of burnouts. And that's what we were feeling into in the last episode and not burning out. This is where it's really important. Instead of jumping into anything, out of the sympathetic state, so out of fight, flight, freeze, knee jerk. Okay, great, somebody has acknowledged me or somebody has acknowledged the work that I'm on or somebody said to me, ⁓ you look wonderful, what are you doing? Or, ⁓ I love your dress, how fantastic, or I love your outfit, ⁓ you're glowing today, anything like that, even compliments is instead of going, ⁓ well, yeah, I've had this for ages, this outfit or... ⁓ well, yeah, it might be the new cream I'm using or, you know, pushing away the compliments, accept them. Because the more we accept the compliments, the more we accept the help and the support, the more it's going to come up. Because if we're pushing something away, and it's absolutely everything this goes for, so it's accepting because the abundance can be showing in a different way. The abundance might gorgeous if you're working on receiving money and the abundance is coming up and someone saying to you, you look fabulous, you look wonderful. Do you need any help with anything? This is the abundance showing for you. So if those compliments are coming up, because we often, when we are working on something, and we're human, we can have an expectation of how it's going to start transpiring. And if little, little... little nuggets, little golden nuggets start coming up in a different form, it might be quite easy for us to to dismiss that and push it away. So if people you're finding people are saying, ⁓ I think it would be really good for you to meet this person. ⁓ actually, I speaking to about you to somebody else the other day. And if you feel it's not necessarily connected with who you are and what you're you're working on, still don't say no. because there's every possibility that that is leading somewhere else. So when those compliments come through or when something comes through, and again obviously I'm speaking very very generally, when something's coming through and it's not quite how you thought, there's the word, how you thought it would happen, before dismissing anything, Get into your parasympathetic state, whatever works, meditation, under a tree, and then before you respond, feel into it. And if you feel, okay, that's not quite for me, and you feel really strongly that's not quite for me, acknowledge the invitation. You can even just acknowledge it yourself if you don't want reply You can acknowledge it to the universe, to yourself and say, how wonderful, look what came up. look what started showing up as I've been working on that. So that's a little sign. Thank you very much to keep going, keep doing what I'm doing. And then by doing that, you're allowing more to come through because what will be happening is it will be going through your filter and the filter of what is best for you. Because if sometimes when we think something is going to happen in a certain way, there's actually a better way for it to happen. And by accepting more and by noticing those little nuggets coming through, that is when we can actually go along that path and allow that more to come in. So as well actually, as well as being accepting more without guilt, this is also accepting how it may possibly happen in a completely different way to how you think, there's that word, how you think it may happen. So what I've been really feeling into, and these are the insights coming through now, is when we work on something and it starts to show around us, because as we know, as we're working, we're doing all the inner work, we're focusing on something positive, when those signals start showing up, it can be so easy to push it away because it's not how we thought it was supposed to be. So I would really feel into, actually, although this isn't necessarily. how I thought it would happen, this has come up for an opportunity for me, this has come up for an experience for me. And instead of saying no immediately, if it feels like an absolute no when you're in your parasympathetic, absolutely, we can say, thank you very much, this is not for me at the moment, and acknowledge to yourself that that came through because you're in that space of exploring. What can also happen, my lovely, is when you're in that parasympathetic state, it's like, okay, well, that feels like an unusual... situation, not something I would have thought of, you never know what may happen. And what you thought is the best path or what you thought is the best way for an outcome to come about, the universe will make sure it's the best way for you. So what you thought was the best way may not necessarily be the best way. Having gone through the settling of the ashes. So the ashes after the eclipse have cooled down and then you're rising up like the Phoenix and you're working on one thing at a time. You're working on, you know, I mentioned in the previous episode, if you haven't done any inner work before. then just start with five minutes a day if you've been working on that. If you've been working on your health, you've been working on, don't know, drinking more water or taking more exercise or making different healthy food choices. Maybe not having as much alcohol as you were before. Or you're working on your abundance and you've been starting allowing and visualizing yourself, having abundance around you, living in a beautiful home. being surrounded by all the beautiful things that you love in your home. You've been visualizing how that house looks. You've been feeling, how do I feel in my most abundant state? You've been doing all of that work all with love. You've been imagining yourself with a partner who is emotionally, physically available, who has all the attributes that you wish is kind, compassionate. loving, funny, creative, whatever you've wished for in your partner, a great listener, etc. etc. And things are starting to show up. You know, maybe you've never done speed dating before and an opportunity comes up to go speed dating, you well, I've never done that before, I am not doing that. Speed dating is awful, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. Instead of going into that, feel into, well, actually, okay, that's showing me opportunity. That's showing me the possibility, you know, that's showing me maybe I need a little bit of practice, maybe I can treat this. I'm gonna go with the speed dating for some reason this has come up. So let's say you've been working on, I would love to receive a partner in my life. And you're not really one for speed dating. You don't particularly like to go out clubbing, partying, socializing, et cetera. And then something comes through. and asks if you would like to go to a speed dating event, either in person or online. Before saying an absolute no, perhaps look at it this way. So you don't necessarily want to go speed dating because for whatever reason it doesn't feel right for you. You feel that people might be drinking lots of alcohol. You might feel uncomfortable in that environment because you're an empath and you're going to feel everything that's going on. You would rather, you prefer to meet somebody organically, you would like it all just to happen and you're walking down the street one day and ⁓ the right person, whoever they may be, walks past you or you're introduced to a friend or however, however, however. And so you have this vision, if you like, you have this expectation of how it's going to happen. And then You get an email through or a friend says to you, I'm going to the speed dating event or you walk past, I don't know, a signpost in the street, speed dating event here. Observe that, listen to that. And you may not necessarily meet your person, your right person. I'm saying like Mr. Mrs. right for you ⁓ that event. What it will be doing though is giving you experience. It will be giving you confidence. It will be helping you discern and understand the attributes that you would like in your person. It could be, my gorgeous, that you go to this speed dating event and there is the person who is your life partner. Absolutely. I'm using that as an example because it may not necessarily happen the way you think. it's going to happen. So that felt really important to come out. So if you're now going to get an invite to a speed dating event, I would absolutely go and let me know how it goes. I'd love to hear about that. That's coming in so strongly, so strongly. So if you're working on receiving more love into your life, my gorgeous. put yourself out there in a way that feels safe for you, absolutely, and allow it to happen in a different way. So with love, allow that to happen in a different way. And again, with abundance, allow it to happen in a different way. There may be a stream of income that you've been working on and working on and working on and working on, and you haven't been receiving income from that, then all of a sudden, something that just comes up, an idea. and you dismiss that, instead of dismissing it, feel into it. Is that something you could spend five, 10 minutes on and just see what happens? Just put it out there and then move on to something else. Instead of pushing ideas away, instead of pushing things away, it's allowing our lives to be in ease. So... If ideas are coming through really strongly when you're in a parasympathetic state, or if somebody says to you, actually, you be rid, this would be great for you. ⁓ there's somebody I think you should meet. If things like that are coming up for you, instead of being in a space of, no, no, no, that's not right for me because this is the path I'm going down. This is, this is, know I'm supposed to be focusing on this, this, this, and this. If you're focusing on one creative project and something else starts coming through, Have a little listen to that. And if you're focusing on, as I said, on a certain income stream and then another idea comes through or somebody gives you an opportunity, instead of going, no, because I'm focusing on this one thing, this is what's coming through. Instead of saying no, because I'm focusing on this one thing at a time and I can only focus on that, allow the fluidity of it. Allow the circle of it. Allow the waves. Allow that to happen, my gorgeous. So I know I mentioned before, focus on one thing. Allow other elements of that one thing to come through to give you opportunities and experiences to reach that one thing. Because sometimes we're given one thing to work on because that's the capacity that we have at that moment. And as we're working on that one thing, things can start shifting around other things. So it's really important that instead of pushing away, and this is another insight coming through. So it's really important instead of pushing away, if other things start coming through, is to feel into, ⁓ well, maybe that's not quite right for me at the moment. I really acknowledge and accept that that has come up for me because I've been putting so much energy. into this element of love, wealth, health, creativity. If something else is coming through that is to do with that situation, then absolutely look at that, look at that, because that could be that wonderful experience. And then say you're working on your creative passions and the speeding, the speed date invitation comes up and you thought, well, I'm going to work on my creativity. Love can go, you know, can go on the back burner. Maybe because you're opening up to your creativity, my gorgeous, and you're opening up your heart and you're aligning with who you truly are, maybe there is an element of love coming through for you. So this is actually getting quite specific. So somebody who's going to be listening to this, I feel this is gonna help them. And I had the idea, and let me know what you feel about this. I had the idea the other day it came up. about people sending me questions and me feeling into them and sending them their messages back. That could be an element that could really help a lot of people. So instead of having an hour private one-to-one, you send me specific questions, nothing about who you are, just a specific question. And then I feel into the energy of who you are and I feel into the energy of that question and then I give you whatever the feedback that's come through of that insight. So for example, that came through for me and that's something that I'm going to be feeling into if that feels right. And if you're hearing this and you think, actually, yes, you feel, actually, yes, that feels right for me, get in touch with me, absolutely. So this episode feels a little bit more, we're going in spirals and waves. So I really felt I was going to be really feeling into. allowing more without guilt. Yes, it's allowing more without guilt. It's also allowing more without expectation. It's allowing more without thinking. It has to be a certain way. So the guilt aspect absolutely can come through because we be conditioned to that. So once we're into that, you know, the guilt aspect and we're not feeling guilty, because guilty is a useless emotion as we know, then it's actually will hang on a moment. if I'm allowing more without guilt, what have I been pushing away? What have I pushed away before? Just notice what have I pushed away that actually was a brilliant opportunity that I didn't realize at the time? the episode title has changed allowing more without knowing the outcome. So ⁓ ⁓ so important ⁓ trust. It's allowing more with trust. So as we've come through about 30 minutes, ⁓ have decided to change the episode title completely. It's allowing more with trust. So it's trusting that although something may be slightly different, to what you thought it was going to be, allowing that experience. It's trusting that an email may have come through that doesn't feel right for you. It's allowing that that happened and trusting that that came through to give you feedback that you're on the right track. Allowing that that speed dating event came up when you were feeling into, well, I just like to meet somebody organically is trusting. the process, it's trusting the process, it's trusting the steps. So, you know, it's that old adage, it's about enjoying the journey, not necessarily the destination. So it's trusting all the way along. And once that ease is settling in, once that synchronicity is settling in, and people, things are showing up around you, is allowing without knowing, allowing more without knowing, allowing more experience, allowing more fun, allowing more love. allowing more support, allowing more help, allowing more abundance without knowing what that final outcome is going to be. So it's allowing more with trust. That's exactly what this whole episode has been about. So how interesting is that? I've spoken for about 30 minutes and we've got to allowing more with trust. That's what it's all about. When we allow more with trust, expectations have gone. When we allow more with trust. neediness has gone. When we allow more with trust, clinging to the outcome has gone. So it's allowing that whatever destination you're heading towards, however that is happening, is happening in the best way for you. And it may not necessarily be the way that you thought it was going to happen. So and then it's recognizing, okay, well, maybe that was a distraction. And just that's a bit of feedback from ⁓ how I used to So I allow that I understand that that was a distraction and that's not for me. Thank you for showing me that. Or it may be that's not a distraction. And that is absolutely a sign and a symbol and synchronicity to show you ⁓ that what you're focusing is magnifying. So if a distraction is coming up, then perhaps have a little look at, where am I being distracted? What's distracting me at the moment? What am I putting too much energy into, which is a distraction? And then you can work on that. So that's feedback. Instead of going into, no, this has happened, ⁓ no, this has happened, it's just feedback. It's just letting you know, okay, well, this is what you focused on, so this is what's come up. So when we focus on Creativity on love, abundance, health, gratitude. That's what's going to be coming back to us when we're focusing, especially in this firehorse year. And when we are focusing on, yes, but what if that is what's going to be coming for us. So it is blindly if you like. blindly trusting from your parasympathetic state. So you're in a state of ease. And it's not necessarily, and this is really important, it's not an opportunity that's coming up and somebody says to you, I'm going to change your world. Give me 5,000, 10,000, 15,000, I can do a spell for you. That is not what I'm talking about. It's not a case of. somebody coming into your life and saying, well, this, this, this, and this doesn't work for you, give me this and I can change it all for you, is taking accountability for ourselves and trusting ourselves. And if a teacher comes up at the right moment who you feel very, very aligned with, and there is an opportunity for you to be supported and work on something, absolutely feel into that in your parasympathetic state, does that feel right? Avoid gurus because we're our own guru quite frankly, so avoid gurus. So again this message is coming through from somebody, so if anything if you've been doing course after course after course after course and nothing's changing, have a look at that my gorgeous. Do you need to do any more courses or do you actually have everything within you to start feeling into, well now I can bring this out into the world and instead of paying to do another course for something, well perhaps I can put that towards a project or I can put that towards... a mentor or a guide who comes in and helps me to get to that point rather than putting it all into I don't think I'm ready yet. For some reason that came up as well. So these little insights are just dropping in for some reason. So whoever's listening to this in a few weeks time, please let me know that helped you. Because this doesn't often happen. Usually I'm speaking generally and I'm getting some really specific messages coming through. So I'm going to leave it there. It's allowing more with trust. So it's allowing more without guilt. It's allowing more without expectations. It's allowing more with love. It's allowing more knowing you are safe, protected and cared for. It's allowing more knowing you deserve more. It's allowing more... at the best moment for you. So this one has just come through as well. So if there's something you've been working on and working on and working on, or something that you've just started working on, whatever it is, it's not happening. It's not happening how you want it to happen. haven't got the, you know, you haven't got the instant income. You haven't got the instant this. You haven't got the instant yes, we love your book. You haven't got the instant yes, your poetry wonderful. We haven't got your instant, ⁓ yes, we love your album. We're going to sign you. You haven't got your instant, ⁓ we love your art. Let's have an exhibition for you. This has just come up very strongly. Just because it hasn't happened before doesn't mean it can't happen now. So if there's something that you know is for you and you are so incredibly passionate about, so incredibly passionate about. Don't give up gorgeous. Please don't give up. Keep going. That is the message that's come through really, really clearly. Keep going. Because whatever is for you stays with you. Whatever is not for you will naturally fall away. If there's something that you've been working on for years and years and years and you know this is for you, you have been distracted in various ways and then keep coming back to it and keep coming back to it. and you feel so passionately about this, keep going. Because the more you focus on that, my gorgeous, as I mentioned, there may be different opportunities that come up that will lead you to meet people who have actually the answers, the resources, whatever that may be for that passion project that you didn't think had anything to do with meeting this person or going to this event. or trusting that idea. Allow it to happen in a different way to how you thought. Okay? So sending you so much love. Please review, subscribe, get in touch with me as well, because I love to know how you're getting on. And particularly with this episode, because some quite specific insights came through, do let me know how you're getting on. And also, if you would like to have an insight session with me, where we just focus on you, not everybody else, just you get in touch with me as well, because I'm going to be opening those up. And if there's anything that you would like me to work on and feel into as well in general, then please do get in touch with me as well. So the episode title is now Accepting More With Trust. Okay, so much love, gorgeous. You've got this, ho.